A Woman’s Place . . .

Friday was horrible.
Saturday is . . .

Tom Toles Editorial Cartoon

If you marched, thank you. Women turned out all over the world (google for pictures in London, Paris, Berlin, Amsterdam, the support will make you cry), and I suddenly have hopes this might be a new era. I haven’t marched in protest since Kent State, but once my eyes are back, I’m out there too.

Oh, and this is so great:

(That’s Melissa Benoist who plays Supergirl on TV.)

The Jez piece on this is great, including the headline–“We’re Not Going To Be Ignored, Don”–although I would stop short of boiling his bunny, depending on the definition of “bunny” at the time.

67 thoughts on “A Woman’s Place . . .

  1. The second I saw “A woman’s place is in the resistance” I thought, “you’re damned right it is.”

    I think I’ll make my own, except with General Organa instead.

  2. I just got home from the Denver march. So many people! I felt hope for the first time since November.

  3. The worldwide marches had me tearing up. Couldn’t find childcare for the boys and was too hesitant to take them with me. So I’m Facebook stalking and cheering

  4. I like the sign saying, “So bad , even introverts are here.” It’s popped up on Facebook a lot.

    A FB friend in Philadelphia with bad social anxiety went to the rally there anyway.

      1. Ooh, are you addressing me? Are you in Edmonton, Cherry?
        If so, I had no sign– I was mostly standing morosely on the raised side steps at the Leg to watch the speakers being buoyant and compelling. Making feeble attempts to sing along with the Raging Grannies. Admiring Linda Duncan’s hair and native drumming abilities.
        Too many years, too many signs. El pueblo, unido, jamas sera vencido

        1. Are both of you in Edmonton? A town near me is a sister city to Stony Plain. (-: I’ve met quite a few people from the Edmonton area, so a mention of the place always warms my heart.

          1. Yes, Edmonton, for my sins. I would like to move someplace smaller and warmer once my kids are done school.
            Not sure where, now that you people have eradicated nine tenths of the continent’s warm areas from my list of possibles!
            Well, there’s always B.C., province of pot-growing hippies and other such mostly harmless folk.
            Stony Plain I have spent time in. Not a bad place, only moderately red-neck, if with a higher percentage of jacked up pick-up trucks than is aesthetically pleasing (what a snob I am). I am starting to figure that if those right wing plain-speakers are tired of keeping everything ‘politically correct’, then so am I, goddammit!

  5. A Betty knit me a lovely pink pussy hat and I went to a smaller (but still about 1,000) gathering in New Hampshire.
    Now to figure out how to make good feeling into action and legislation.
    I’ve got my representatives’ phone numbers in my contacts, I call them, which I’ve never done before.

  6. I don’t usually go out for these things (I’m one of those introverts) but I found out at noon that there was a march in my small-ish upstate NY town at 1, and I put on my “Nasty Woman” tee shirt and went, bad knee and all.

    The energy was AMAZING. We had somewhere between 300-400 people and it was incredibly positive. I feel SO much better than I did yesterday.

    I think the Republicans are in for a very rude shock.

  7. Just back from an evening protest, after attending a morning one earlier. Small towns in the Pacific Northwest had great turnouts! My first protest since… 1991 I think. Great energy, lots of women AND men determined not to go back to the bad old days!

  8. I was in Baltimore. We were small (due to our close proximity to D.C.) but mighty! I have been obsessively watching the coverage from other cities since we got home. This is the first day since the election that I have felt truly hopeful.

    1. Me, too. I think yesterday was an antidote, not just to the inauguration but to the election. I couldn’t understand how my country could have voted for this insane clown. Then the results came in and it turned out he lost by over three million votes, but still, sixty-two million people put marks next to the name of a racist, sexist, asshat who wants to bring back registration for religious minorities. And then yesterday, people all over the world said, “Not this time, motherfucker,” and now I’m hopeful again.
      Thanks for going out, too!

  9. I decided it was “stand up and be counted” time and went to a local rally, about 350 people. It was fun, but I wondered if it was worth my time…until, when I was walking home, alone near a busy intersection and with my sign tucked under my arm, some guy rolled down his truck window and yelled, “Grab ’em by the pussy!”

    At ME. A woman clearly old enough to be his mother. I waved my sign at him and yelled, “Have some guts!” (not yet good at channeling Gandhi). Came home and ordered George Lakoff’s book, “Don’t Think of an Elephant,” on how to frame the debate. Making a list of people to call and write. Figuring out where to lend my writing talents.

    Oh, boy, am I grabbing back.

    1. Excellent.
      I have to figure out how to get involved, too. I’ve been writing my congressmen, but that feels feeble.

      1. I have seen that calling is much more effective than writing, although the times I have tried to call people (like Ryan, since my congresspeople are Chuck Schumer and Kirsten Gillebrand, and man, I don’t have to call them) all I get is a busy signal. Apparently a couple other people are calling too.

        1. I read the same thing. And especially calling their home offices, not the D.C. one.

          Been thinking about how to effectuate change myself. I’ve always paid attention passively, but I’m thinking it’s time to become more active. Not just with my national reps, but with state and local (thinking back to a conversation on this blog about lasting change beginning at home). Start at home and watches the ripples spread outward.

        2. Deb (and others!), please remember to ‘go local’ as well. Your city, county, and state legislators need to hear from you, and I’ll bet some of them are Rs. Also, upstate NY is pretty red, so while your US senators are awesome (as are mine!),
          contact your US House rep, too. S/he could be a POS, as is mine here in the one gerrymandered red district in the blue state of MD.

        3. you may not have to call them to yell at them, but you could drop them a note saying they are doing well and you absolutely back them!

      2. It’s feeble when your Senator is Mitch McConnell who has been ignoring my letters for decades now.

        1. I hear phone calls are more effective, but I don’t make phone calls if I can possibly communicate any other way. What kind of fools are they, to count one kind of contact more than another? I held out against my alumni directory for twenty years, until they stopped insisting you phone them (at “any time convenient to you” which is never) and allowed you to update your information online. In 2016!

    1. I was amazed first, by the size and spread of the protests–not just in DC and Chicago, but in other towns and cities, large and small, across America. The scope was beyond anything I have ever seen or expected. And then to find out that it was happening on literally all seven continents (even Antarctica)…I just am so gobsmacked.

      Like Jenny said, I was horrified after the election to discover that almost half the country had voted for hatred and fear. Seeing this kind of push-back gives me back some of the faith in humanity I lost that day. (And I do think that some of the people who voted for Trump–although sadly, by no means all–did it as a protest, much like the UK folks did for Brexit, never thinking it would actually happen.)


      1. More than half the country didn’t vote at all.
        Of the less than half that did vote, more than three million more people voted for Hillary, sixty-two mill plus for Trump and sixty-five mill plus plus for Hill.
        So less than a quarter of the country voted for that nutjob. We’re okay.

  10. Gah MJ!

    Common decency seems to be hibernating.

    I stayed up till my midnight following the marches on Twitter. Woke at 6.30am feeling a sense of determination to elicit change in my social environment.

    Am actually going to re-read and try to apply the lessons of Game People Play by Eric Berne. It is OLD but I feel it might be useful.

  11. I marched local – and in my little city I think the size of the march was close to 3000, which is basically 10% of the population. It was exhilarating, and encouraging, and cathartic. Also there were a LOT of children and dogs. It was most excellent.

  12. I couldn’t be at the Melbourne march in person, but there in spirit. This is my hope for the years ahead of us – that we are galvanised into action, because it’s become very, very clear that we can’t take our progress towards a caring, compassionate, inclusive, intelligent society for granted. Moments like this world-wide action feed that hope in me.

  13. Guys, I’ve talked about facing microaggressions before. And I have to say the marches mean a LOT to someone like me. In my case, no matter how educated I am, my contribution is negated.

    I went for a job interview yesterday. I am qualified and I am 90% sure I’m the wrong colour.

    Being the liberal that I am, I understand and support the policies we have in place to redress imbalances. I hope people are more willing to learn and share experiences so that we have equality as a lived reality not a futuristic concept.

    Something as basic as the gender pay gap is negated because people believe women have equal rights. If we REALLY did, we wouldn’t have a pay gap AND carry the majority of duties of child care.

    I’m tryig to be sensitive to those who don’t understand and I am trying to help rather than hinder. It is hard to help though, when we are frequently brushed aside or worse.

    So if I seem too hard-core here or through other social media, it is from a genuine place of trying to make sense of thongs and my role in it.

  14. I went to the march in Austin yesterday and it was FABULOUS. So many interesting people of all persuasions. Even though the weather turned rather warm and we were standing around for a long time on the capitol grounds (takes awhile to get many people moving and marching), everyone was talking, laughing, enjoying the day. I am so glad I went. I will take this energy and re-commit myself to making positive changes in 2017.

  15. I was at the March in Memphis and there were several thousand people! I am so inspired by the outpouring of strength by my sisters – literally and figuratively! My family covered Philly, Chicago, and DC, too! I have never done this before but now that I got my first taste I will not hesitate to go again.

    Check out this site for a full list of marches. https://www.womensmarch.com/sisters/

  16. I could not go to the march? rally? (reports are unclear on whether marching took place) in Louisville yesterday because I was working, as I am today–home for lunch now. I asked friends to wear my name, saying “present in spirit, body and mind at work” in DC, Boston, Pittsburgh, and elsewhere. I’ve heard back from my friend it Boston.

  17. I marched with 750,000 of my sisters and brothers in Los Angeles, and it was an amazing, strong, peaceful, and hopeful event. The police and firefighters did an excellent job (especially considering the crowd was 8x what they expected), and the people I went with all agreed – it’s the most positive we’ve felt since November 8th.

    As far a future actions, the organizers are proposing next steps here: https://www.womensmarch.com/100/

    Si se puede!

    1. Thanks for that link. I’ve taken my own resolution to write my senators once a week, but maybe ten days is more do-able. I must remember to write my representative and thank him now and then for being a sensible man.

  18. I got on bus with a lot of ladies from Columbus, Ohio and went to the March in DC. The estimates I’m seeing say around 500,000 people, but they’re based on 1 person per 3 square feet and it was a lot more densely packed than that. This was my first protest ever, and like everyone else here, I’m figuring out how to turn it into a long-term, positive action.

    My thoughts are around the 2018 election. Because of the gerrymandering in effect in most states, it will be hard to affect the Congressional races, but we might be able to make some progress with the Senate.

  19. I was at work yesterday, but I read coverage and looked at the pictures of the many great signs. Thanks to everyone who marched 🙂

  20. Well, wasn’t that an energizing event! Finally, it rains in our drought state, so we had quite a number of umbrellas painted with slogans. What I liked was signs were hand-done, not printed placards. People all over the place in laid-back San Diego. We marched in front, just behind the lead banner and before the drums. Watching from the top deck of the noon ferry back, we could see folks turning the corner onto Harbor Drive and the line still stretched waaay back on Broadway as far as I could see. People on the cruise ships cheered. Police and firefighters were smiling and cheerful. Yay, us!

  21. I went with a group of women and a few men on a bus from Lansing, MI to DC. It’s going to take a few days to process everything I saw and felt and heard. Amazing. Affirming. Inspiring.

    I have hope again. For the first time since the election. So much love at this march. Consideration. Kindness. Laughter. Creativity. Basically – ALL the positive adjectives.

    And yes, there really were that many people. One police officer we spoke to (to say thank you for supporting the march) said headquarters estimated the crowd at 860,000 +

    And no drama.

  22. I’m working on love notes for my representatives because they need to hear if they are doing well too. Plus, I get to write to Senator Warren (insert heart-eye emoji here).

  23. Hey all.

    Please do not text where you were to any number.

    Unless you know, with 100% certainty who will have access to that information, assume you live in a police state once removed.

    MJ – Thanks. I know I questioned a couple of people for not even acknowledging the issue of the day. Some social authors all mentioned or tweeted support in some way BEFORE going on later to discuss usual stuff – and that felt as if they were supportive not dismissive.

    I wonder if I was being extra sensitive to regular insensitivity.

    Going back through tweet streams I saw that the people I was upset about don’t even acknowledge school shootings or earthquakes so why’d I expect empathy for this?!

    To everyone else, take action. Call ALL your reps. Even school board for banning books or firing good teachers.

    Keep safe.

  24. I am inspired and feel so much love and gratitude to you all willing to march, to those supporting marches and to those who refuse to be quiet. Thank you

  25. I marched with my 70+ year old parents and 250,000 people in Chicago. It was amazing to be there.

    One of my favorite momments was on the el, on the way home. We were all tired and euphoric and packed in like sardines and my mother, a retired children’s librarian, asked the young woman standing in front of her what she was going to do to carry on this on and got that whole section of the train talking about next steps.

    And then, after we got home, the three of us introverts pulled out our preferred reading materials and sat and read and ate snacks in companionable silence.


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