Cherry Saturday, October 13, 2018

Today is No Bra Day.  Or as I call it, every day. 

Actually, No Bra Day is celebrated to increase awareness of breast cancer screenings; the BRA originally stood for Breast Reconstruction Awareness, but that’s kind of gotten lost in the whole oh-my-god-it-feels-good-to-not-wear-a-bra thing.  Bras have always annoyed me because aside from preventing pain while jogging, their major use seems to be to shield heterosexual men from the sight of nipples through fabric: I have to wear a sling so that they can concentrate on their work?  No.  (I spent most of my twenties saying, “My eyes are up here.”)  Then I got fitted for this stupid Life Vest which I was supposed to put a bra over, and I said, “That’s it.”  I still have bras if I have to go somewhere and I’m not wearing layers, but for bumming around the house and short trips to the diner and to walk the dog, I am a free woman.  

But also breast cancer awareness, too.   Don’t burn your bra, that’s bad for the environment, but definitely take it off and get a mammogram.  It’s that kind of day.

36 thoughts on “Cherry Saturday, October 13, 2018

  1. Alrighty then. This morning in my e-mail was a newsletter from my medical center about, to me, a new mammogram. The standard is called a 2D. the new one is a 3D with these particulars (1) reduces callbacks (that works for me) (2) more easily detects cancerous tissue in dense breasts and (3) does not increase radiation exposure. Where I had a call back after my last mammogram this is worth looking into.

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    1. Totally unrelated, but speaking of 3D’s did anyone happen to see on the news this morning a story about a mural painted on the side of a building? When people using 3D glasses looked out from the blue lens they saw couple about to kiss (like on a book cover) out of the red side they saw skeleton figures. Awesome and eerie.

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    2. Check with your insurance first though! I was VERY disappointed to learn mine wouldn’t cover this …. yet?

      Now I’m going to look up Life Vests and very possibly make an investment there.

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      1. Argh – sorry . Did not know this was heart-health related. Of all my medical issue, this is not (yet) one of them.

        I’m always on the lookout for better/more comfortable bra alternative (back issues are involved)

        I will be bra-Free in spirit!

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        1. Have you tried the bras that are racer-backed and hook in the front? They’re much more comfortable for me (and no straps constantly sliding down my arms). Not entirely sure I believe their “posture-friendly” claims, and they keep discontinuing the style I like and replacing it with one I don’t like as much. Sort of the devolution of the perfect bra. Sigh.

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    3. I just got a 3D mammogram on Monday and skipped out of the appointment so happy because THIS year I wouldn’t be getting a call back. Wednesday I got a call back because they couldn’t see anything. Argh.

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  2. I would like to articulate the case for women who actually need bras for themselves.

    See the picture of the woman at the top of the post? That bra is an A cup or B at most. Women with small breasts can go braless and experience an increase in comfort.

    But women with large breasts cannot go without bras without discomfort due to lack of support. Don’t want to go into details, but suffice it to say that the major effort, expense and discomfort of surgery to reduce them that I am currently contemplating should give an idea of how their mass impairs life in ways that small breasted women never seem to get.

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    1. Have known 2 women who had breast reduction surgery and both were thrilled with the results. I say go for it. Even my Cs are a pain the a** most of the time.

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    2. I’m in the middle with a C cup, which means I can’t go to the grocery braless unless I go for layers, but I can walk around my neighborhood to get the mail and give the dogs some exercise. Jogging is, of course, out. So the big question when I leave the house is “To bra or not to bra.” Must get more layers.

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      1. I am also a C cup (although they’re sagging enough these days you might call them a C flat…). I wear good bras when I am at work (except in the winter, because layers) or out at cons. At home, I wear comfy bralet thing that have some support but are much more comfortable, or little tops with the same kind of thing built in. And never underwires. Those things are brutal.

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        1. Honey, if you are a D cup or above, an underwire (if it fits properly) is so much more comfortable!

          Actually, I think that it depends on the shape of your breasts. Some shapes fit better in an underwire, some don’t

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    3. I’m with you, @queenofstoneage. I had a reduction in May, and went from a HH to DDD. The difference is amazing, but I still need to wear a bra for support/comfort. Because of my frame, I would have looked out of proportion if I’d gone smaller. And I still get the benefit of not having as much strain on my neck/shoulders/back.

      Because I have double-coverage for insurance, and it was deemed by both insurance companies to be medically necessary, it was entirely covered. My only regret is that I didn’t do it earlier.

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  3. Ok, off topic, but I keep getting ads for these amazing mugs (blue willow style, but with tiny art of monsters destroying the world) https://calamityware.com/products/calamityware-mug-1-things-could-be-worse?utm_source=Facebook&utm_campaign=TCBW200Sept18-2percent&utm_medium=ad&fbclid=IwAR14eYC8V_MBz9mqCGJQNanPutAeDob4p0Exk6dWunD5MP3Y1UFChMjAOEY

    Sadly, they are out of my budget at the moment, but they seem like the kind of thing someone on ARGH would enjoy

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    1. I have those and enjoy them every day. I think Jenny mentioned them a while back, and I got them for a gift and then kept them. Every morning they make me smile, and that’s worth every penny.

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  4. Hi Jenny, I too have that problem, and am older, so don’t have to worry about eyeballs popping. My solution was to buy slightly padded vests with a zip front, for when I go out. No nipples show and the vest keeps me comfortable.

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  5. Underwire is dreadfully uncomfortable. My French friend told me, “You’ll get used to it.” I prefer not to.

    Elementary school guys always make fun of flat-chested girls. I never thought an A cup was an advantage until a supermodel said that you’ll sag less. Running is also less complicated. I’ve seen happy patients pre- and post-breast reduction too (“My bra is an HH! Do you want to see it?” one of them asked me.)

    Still, A cups are not generally celebrated. That’s one of the reasons I love figure skater Tessa Virtue. You can be beautiful without getting implants!

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    1. Underwire is essential if you’re a larger cup size and don’t want just to be squashed into a sausage. It’s actually fairly comfortable if properly fitted – although I don’t wear a bra when I’m home alone. I’m a 34FF (UK cup sizes; which go A, B, C, D, DD, E, F, FF, G, etc.). I go to Bravissimo, whose fitters are brilliant.

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      1. Playtex makes a great model which is not underwire but supports the D cup comfortably.

        Wires give me blisters.

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  6. In another life, I was a professional bra fitter. If you have the right size and style for your body shape, you should not be uncomfortable when wearing a bra. My bras fit properly but I must admit that at the end of the day when I know I don’t have to go outside and see people…I breathe a huge sigh of relief and take the darn thing off! (And I would love to go back to being an almost B cup size again)

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  7. underwire bras always end up poking me in the underarm. Hate them. My friend says that only happens when they wear out, but I don’t care to buy them anymore.

    The last Mammogram I got cost me $1000. My insurance sucks.

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    1. Good heavens. And I was annoyed that I might have to pay for parking the last time I went for a mammogram – but it turned out you were excempt if that’s all you were there for (they’re done in a van that parks in the hospital carpark; but it only takes ten minutes – the system’s amazingly efficient).

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    2. Paid $15 last time, this year. My premiums are SUPER high. I truly wonder if all evens out, your pay-out, mine.

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  8. I missed all the sadness of last week, so I just want to leave a quick note of condolence to all who need condoled, and a giant ray of happy energy to everyone who is still able to fight the good fight.

    Bras are a much easier topic! I’m a D, so getting a good, “expensive” bra was really important for me to start gussying up my image in general. The body line is completely different when I’m wearing one, and when I’m letting it all hang loose. (I don’t feel any pain when I don’t wear a bra, but I look flubby. Like a melting candle.)

    I take forever to get around to anything, but Jeanne inspired me to get a mammogram in July; there was a spot, and it turned out to be benign. So, I guess I’m “doomed” to have regular check-ups from now on to keep an eye on the spot. But, there are several levels of “doomed”, so this low-level, bargain-basement version of doom is just fine. Git yer mammograms, git ’em soon.

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  9. For the last couple of years in the fall and winter I wear a camisole with a built in shelf bra. It does double duty in that it keeps my tummy warm.

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  10. Bra-free for 35 years; 36DD here. I’m a nudist, so I’m used to shedding things, and if anyone had ever commented on my bralessness (ooh, thank you, autocorrect: brainlessness seems to fit in there, doesn’t it?) my reply would have been “I’m wearing clothes, what more do you want?”

    Sports bra type support wasn’t an issue for me, because anything that made my breasts bounce painfully also made my knees and ankles hurt. I never did run, but I used to play tennis and volleyball on occasion. Trust me, my breasts have not sagged more than those of my age-mates who wear bras all the time.

    I stopped wearing them a few years after I got allergic to polyester and several other synthetics. In the early 80s you could find truly 100% cotton bras if you were a C or less. Not me. After a few years of trying this and that, I was just Through Shopping.

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    1. No: I’m sure that sagging thing is a myth promoted by bra manufacturers. It makes no sense: why wouldn’t any supportive tissue be more developed if it had something to do?

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  11. Ugh, bras and I are NOT friends at all. Last 3 times I’ve bought new ones I’ve done it at “specialist shops” that are supposed to give you the best service and help you get the bra you need…for prices between €50-€100 (approx $57-$115). Or even more, probably.
    Do I feel more comfortable after spending 250 euros on bras? No. I still get deep imprints, chafes or even bleeding wounds in my sides and/or under my breasts where they dig in to the flesh. I try to wear them as loose as possible, but I can’t have them hanging so loosely the breasts drop out under the cups… 🙁

    First thing I do when I get home is get that thing off. If I have days at home, I’m not putting one on. Can’t remember I had these problems when I had a C-cup, but that’s what…almost 15 years ago. Boo. Am an F-cup nowadays.

    sport-bra…don’t think I’ve had one since I had DD-cup. Haven’t been that active last years either but still. Should get one. But when bras equals pain or discomfort I don’t feel very eager to go get more of them. Argh. 🙁

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    1. I know it sounds illogical, Shass, but in my experience too-big bras are much more uncomfortable than those that fit snugly. I’ll often think a bra is too tight, only to realize that actually I need to shorten the straps and/or use a tighter set of hooks at the back.

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  12. I just discovered that the bras made for people who have had mastectomies are also brilliantly comfortable and supportive for women who still have their original equipment. No underwires you see.
    I could not do without a bra, they are just too heavy.

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