Let’s slow down.

There’s bad stuff coming, but it’s not here yet. There’s time to think things through, figure out what’s actually happening before Jan. 2017, make plans for the long run. It’s going to be a long run with slow progress, but slow is almost always smarter than fast. Slow lasts.

So deep breaths and steady as we go. I don’t think we’ve survived worse, but we’ve survived a lot of bad. We’ll fix this, too. We have work to do . . .

. . . but for just this weekend, just this moment, let’s go slow.

RIP Leonard Cohen. You were amazing and your music will live forever. Wish you could have, too.

Even better:

28 thoughts on “Slow

    1. I just came back to post that.

      “There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light get in.”

      I love this so much.

  1. Slow is good. And try very hard to stay away from the news. Wait four years. Then watch the news. There’s a lot of rabble rousing going on.
    My partner, Barry Corbin, and I wanted to leave the country when Nixon was re-elected.
    I spent eight years ignoring the presidency of Ronald Regan, convinced that the country could not survive him.
    And then there was Bush, whose solution to terrorism was carpet bombing.
    And yet, here we are. None of the presidents who I thought would end the country ended it.
    And for my Republican friends, none of the democratic presidents who YOU thought would end the country, ended it. We are still here.
    And although I believe with every fiber of my being that the country, as a whole, did not make the best choice. I do believe we will survive it. The Constitution is stronger that one shoddy president. And the machinery to change the constitution is ponderous and mightily creaky.
    My prayer is for the highest and best for our country. I believe our highest and best doesn’t depend on the reign of on president. Onward.

    1. Oh I forgot. Jenny, my character on American Horror Story this season is The Real Butcher. I started in episode 607 and the character runs thru the end of the season. I was freaked out by what we did in episode 609. A close-up view of the action was truly awful. The show used between 9 and 23 cameras on every shot, and fortunately, the editors showed cuts that were more distant. So I wasn’t on camera much.
      The only thing I regret is that my costume and the three-hour makeup were truly brilliant. I wish people could have seen them better.

    2. Don’t wait four years to watch the news. Take the weekend off and then watch closely. And in two years when much of Congress comes up for a vote at midterms, find out who’s going to protect you and VOTE.
      Half of this country didn’t vote. That’s obscene.

      1. I find it helps to pick news shows were people have calm voices or read the news instead of getting it from most t.v. news stations. It sounds silly, but it helps me to react to the content (which is often bad enough) instead of the drama and the shouting.

        I’m definitely on board with ignoring the news while I get my bearings. But when you’re ready to go back to the news Susan, maybe there’s a media format that’s more productive/calm for you to consume?

        1. This is why I quit watching television entirely twenty years ago. I Cannot Stand the voices. (Even the calm ones sound unbearably pompous.) I get my news in print. Twenty years ago I’d had an internet connection for three years and I realized I did not need a television to get news. Or weather.

        2. I think another good thing is to make at least one of your news sources one from overseas. I like The Guardian newspaper. The foreign press corps have fewer stakes in the business, and are less likely to make a big fuss about something that doesn’t mean much. But they do tend to pick up on the big stuff that matters to the world. (This is only for national politics; local stuff, you may have to find or make your own balanced and objective news.) If the situation warrants, you can find your way back into U.S. news sources if you need more information, but at least you’ll have a filter.

          Oh, and avoid the BBC. My experience is that they sound marvelous with their swishy accents, but they do tend to go for the overdramatic angle instead of the overall picture.

      2. Someone always tells me when I have to take action, but the news is obscene. I can’t hold that and peace in my mind at the same time.
        I turned off the news thirty-five years ago when my two-year-old started crying at what he was seeing.
        I miss so much awful stuff, which is a blessing.
        Until the news becomes cognizant of the fact that there are far more good people in the world than bad, I am not interested.
        Fact: I live in Van Nuys CA. We MAY have upped the force to 400 officers. There are approximately 271,000 people who live here. A lot more come into work here. Now those officers are overworked, but the fact that 400 policemen can handle that many people, argues that there a lot of good humans living here.

    3. Susan while I liked your comment, none of those Presidents had complete control of Congress. There is no way to stop them except in the courts. We are going to have to be vigilant and litigate the hell out of them.

  2. Thank you Jenny. And thank you Lynn. I have been so depressed and bereft since the election results, but I haven’t been able to cry. “Anthem” broke the dam for me. I’m watching it with tears streaming down my face. I hope it will be the start of healing. Thank you for the Argh people, for being a safe place to come grieve, when even Facebook felt like too much to deal with. Hugs to all. We shall survive. And eventually, we will rise up again like the phoenix, through the crack that lets the light through.

    1. I found a lovely safety pin necklace on Etsy that I bought to wear. I shopped small and the jewelry crafter is including a $5 donation to the ACLU with each order. It’s a way to say that I don’t support racism and hatred and remind myself and others that we should offer safety and kindness, not anger and threats. Until I can figure out what else to do, I’m starting with this.

  3. While news is painful and sick-inducing, it needs watching.

    Take action. There is a good tweet thread that tells people how important calls are to your local representatives’ office. A flood of phone calls about a specific issue gets reported to the Washington offices but a letter is usually tracked by algorithm and the response is a form one.

    I’ll link to it in a bit.

    I can’t open other windows while here. Something about this system makes the post unrecognisable so when I hit submit it is a blank form even though I can see everything I typed.

    Get a group of people together to call about how reprehensible it is to insist on funerals for foetuses. Or allowing people to grab women and say, “There’s nothing you can do about it now.”

    Those calls are critical.

    1. One note: if you’re calling your representative, there’s a good chance that the person you talk to is an unpaid intern. Who really will take your message and pass it up the chain, so it’s important to call. Politicians are very interested in what their constituents think. But remember there’s a good chance you’re talking to an unpaid 20 year old who’s watched too many episodes of the West Wing.

      When I lived in D.C., one of my friends interning for an anti-gun control person had to stay on the phone while a woman called him a murderer and a child killer after a shooting. I personally support gun control, and I certainly understand why people are passionate about that and many other important issues. But I think many people who call political office think they’re talking to someone who has much more control over policy than they actually do.

  4. Well, l calmed down by stop reading the news. I have been vacationing in LA and go home tomorrow. At the concert – classical cellist- the soloist giving an encore dedicated it to Hillary and the Disney Concert Hall went crazy clapping and yelling. So I decide I can read the news and discover major demonstrations in Portland. Then we get back to our room and there are police and sirens all over the place and discover there is a demonstration about two blocks away from us. Are you sure bad times aren’t here yet?

    While most of the Portland demonstrators are peaceful, some are destructive and I would bet my own money that the destructive ones didn’t vote for Hillary and were planning on demonstrating against her if she got elected. Although one woman who was interviewed said that she had to be there, that Trump needed to know that hate and bigotry and sexism were not acceptable.

  5. I think it’s kind of funny that his first 100 day plan includes campaign reforms like term limits for congress. It would be great if he accomplished that. He won’t though. The funny comes in because in trying to do that he’s going to eliminate what little republican support he has right off the bat.

  6. Yes, slow is good. Take time to rethink, to strategize, and to work out the logistics of getting to where we need to go to achieve what is necessary. It won’t be done in anger. We need clear heads. We have to stay aware, alert, and rebuild from the bottom up.

    Thank you, Lynn. I needed that! Going back to listen again, and to watch those gorgeous birds.

    1. I like that. The Thinking Woman’s Dreamboat.

      Here in Canada, Friday was wall-to-wall Remembrance Day/Leonard Cohen on the CBC. Sobering and uplifting.

    2. Thank you for the link! The song brings back the memory driving on holidays with our two young sons. It was back in the days of cassette being the only form of music. We played my Leonard Cohen tape many times. They loved the music and I’m very happy to say they have a very eclectic taste in music. Interesting how they picked up on the words and melody. We talked about what the songwriter was saying and how the music was almost haunting. A beloved son of Canada and the world.

  7. Home from L.A. If any of you are planning on vacationing there, the food and hotel was expensive, the freeways were a nightmare but people were incredibly helpful and friendly, and while I get better food in Portland for less money, I also get wait people who are almost comatose. It was hot but a great place and Pasadena was really a fun place.

  8. I was sad to hear the news about Leonard Cohen. His song, “Hallelujah”, was one of the first songs I learned after getting my ukulele last December. I replayed it the night I heard, and remembered how beautiful it was that someone like that has lived in our world. The sweet is balanced with the bitter.

    (Plus, I was really happy to feel how much my playing has improved over the last 10 months!)


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