2013: Nothing But Good Times Right Now

For my New Year’s Eve post, I’d love to say something inspirational, but all I’ve got is “Thank god this freaking year is over.” I don’t know why I’ve fixated on Jan. 1 as the day my luck turns around; that makes as much sense as believing the world is going to end because the Mayan calendar cycle stopped. But there is something about that clean slate; the ball drops, we wipe the old year out and start writing the new one, the one where we’ll be smarter, thinner, fitter, more efficient, less cluttered, the one where there’ll be no bras beside the computer, no spinach wilting in the fridge, no unwashed dishes or unlaundered clothes or dogs with back problems that require expensive MRIs. . .

Wait. Is that just me? Never mind.

Anyway, I’m not making any resolutions this year. Actually, I never make resolutions, but usually I have a Plan. I definitely had one last year but that didn’t make it past January 19 when the universe hit me with a Zamboni, and then backed up and hit me again. So I have decided that Plans are now in the same category as Resolutions, a waste of time and life. From now on I’m living in the moment because even with the hellish year I had, more than half of the moments were good ones, but I missed them because I was obsessing about the other half (which, to be fair, were trying to kill me).

So from now on, I’m giving up on internal messages like “Why did you do that stupid thing?” and “How are you ever going to fix this in the future?” and just stick with “How’re we doing right now?”

Right now I’m curled up in a warm bed under my favorite quilt with a poodle and a dachshund snoring beside me. We’re doing brilliantly, thanks.

Wishing you nothing but good times ahead in 2013, one moment at a time.

74 thoughts on “2013: Nothing But Good Times Right Now

  1. I like it, too. I’m about to go to the indoor pool (in the freezing weather) and do an early morning workout. And I feel lucky to be able to do that.
    Of course, I’ve just finished an essay on my writing goals for 2013 and I feel more focused BUT I don’t feel attached to them so much that I can’t change essay a to essay b, c, d…z. You get the picture.
    Happy New Year Jenny. Happy New Year Argh tribe. I’m happy to be one of you.

  2. You might like this quote from Abraham Lincoln: ‎”The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time.”

  3. My New Year’s resolution for last year was to be kinder, to myself as well as others. How hard could that be? Surprisingly hard, as it turned out. This year I’m going for “remember to appreciate the good moments,” mostly because my kid turns 17 today and is busy making plans for the rest of his life that include travel and far-off places. I need to enjoy him while I’ve got him!

  4. What a lovely mind set for the New Year!

    I gave up Resolutions years ago, and Having A Plan didn’t work so well either, so I’m ready to try How Are We Doing Right Now. At this very moment, right now feels good. :-)

    A very Happy New Year to all of us!

  5. I like the idea of “how am I doing now?” It seems like an appropriate way to live and to pay attention to the present. I will also have to do some planning and thinking about the future as I’m trying to decide whether or not to move and there is job-hunting to be done and decisions about living accommodations to make, even if I stay here. (In Houston, apartment complexes require 60 days’ notice before you move. That’s ridiculous. And living month to month rather than leased costs you at least $100/month more. Grr.)

    1. Would it be worth signing a lease and then give notice as soon as you decide to move with the possibility of paying 1 extra month’s rent? Don’t know which would be more costly.

      1. If I end up moving back to Seattle, I would love to find someone to help pay relocation costs, including any fees for either breaking my lease or not giving a full 60 days notice. And yes, when I find work, I should be making enough that I could pay that extra month’s rent as well as rent for my new place.

  6. Happy New Year, Jenny! May it bring you thousands of moments of happiness, with love, and joy, and successes both large and small, with friends and family and furry creatures and toddlers

  7. My goal for the future is to try and live life better. I have a SIL with liver cancer. She has been fighting it for 6 years now. Recently, I realized she has spent much of this time ‘dying’ not taking the time to ‘live.’ This might simply be an attitude change, I don’t know, but it was my wake up call too. I don’t have a life threatening disease, thankfully & yet, but I don’t know how long I have either, so I want to change my attitude & priorities to live life not just get through it. Obviously, there will be things outside of my control, but I think it is a good thing to strive toward.

  8. Happy new year. I like your approach. I’m not one for resolutions either, I figure if I am going to get thinner, smarter, younger (oops not possible, right?) or whatever, I can do that starting any day.
    One tip I learned, in NaNoWriMo of all places, is when your head tells you something is crap, say thanks then just move on. Bad luck and negative thoughts hate being helpful (hmm that makes me sound like a wingnut {yay, I’ve always wanted to be eccentric}) so they go away.
    Have a great new year!

  9. I’m with you on not making resolutions. And I’ve come around to understanding the joke of making plans. So true that “life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans” thing.

    But I do like to have goals. Not tasks I need to complete by a certain time. More a roadmap of aspects of me or my life that I’d like to work on. And I’ve found a lot of inspirations for my newest goals right here in this community. So thanks all.

    Wishing everyone a fab 2013. And maybe for those of us in the north, a little less snow to shovel 😉

  10. Hey Jenny! Here’s to a totally fabulous 2013. I’ve got cassoulet in the crock pot, beans on the stove, and am about to go outside and dig in the garden (southern California). I love the “how am I doing right now?” – I will use that, definitely.

    Huge hugs coming your way!

  11. Yeah, the past year, starting mid December 2011, actually, was a roller coaster. It wasn’t so much that there were highs and lows; it’s more that the tracks in front are really hard to see when you are teetering on the brink. All you can do is make peace with your maker, cross your fingers that you don’t run out of track, and hang on. Right now I’m tired and would like a few months on a nice, boring merry-go-round, thankyouverymuch. However, I did survive to the end of this year’s ride, so, what the hell, let’s go again. I have friends along who won’t let me fall out.

  12. I had a resolution, but I have already forgotten what it was, so I’m jumping on the “how are we doing now” bandwagon. Best wishes, Arghers

  13. It’s 8.48 AM 1-1-2013. Had a great night eating sour cream and chives waves, a glass of sparkling mineral water, and pretend it’s champagne, and later a piece of marzipan coated in dark chocolate. We hired a movie and decided on Johnny Depp in Dark Shadows. Hmmm…….. Anyway, my plans are to write as much as possible now that I’ve found a niche.
    Happy and Safe New Year everyone! :-)

  14. It sounds like a good plan…er, lack of plan, to me. I usually set goals, but I haven’t gotten around to writing them down yet, and let’s face it, I know what they are.

    Here’s hoping we all find what we want and need in the new year, in the best possible way and at the best possible time. Nothing but good times ahead!

    And Jenny–here’s wishing you a MUCH calmer and healthier and more productive 2013. Love you lots!

  15. I’ve been thinking this, too- to live in the present moment, wisely and earnestly. I don’t remember where I heard that, but it feels right, except the earnestly part. I don’t do earnest. I’d like to say I came to this from deep thought and reflection, but actually it’s more a case of desperation. At least it sounds like I’m in good company! :-)

    Happy New Year!!

  16. What utter sense you make. I could have written this sentiment myself. At the moment I’m writing ‘Medieval’ so I am want to speak good sense as if ’twere but a decade past 1066 when dear King Harolde lost the kingdom of Wessex in the Battle of Hastings…

    I’ve been knee deep in research but I have but one thought…

    Jeez I’m glad I wasn’t born then!

    But it would have been good for flies… sigh – if you believe in reincarnation (no Mortein).

    Happy New Year dear Lady Jennie, may your cup runneth over!

    Zara Penney

  17. I’ve been asking “How are you doing?” a lot lately, to myself and to others. It’s a great philosophy.

    No more Zambonis, I pray. Time for things to move in a better direction.

    Wishing everyone good health, an increase in wealth, and more joy than we know what to do with!

  18. Happy New Year, Jenny. And Argh people!
    I usually set my goals for the year and share them with my critique partner. I do a private five year plan every five years. And this is the year for that! Last year I achieved above and beyond my expectations. Three books to be published in 2013.
    Yesterday, I couldn’t set goals for one year. Today, I knew there was no way in hell I could figure out goals for five years ahead. I’ll be a really old lady at the conclusion of those five years. I might not be here. I might not be writing. So why worry, why set all kinds of goals without having a clue about what I want, right?
    I’m adopting your non-plan for this year. It will be my gap year. : ) I’ll observe, and try to enjoy my accomplishments, go with the flow. No pressure.

  19. I’m with you on not setting resolutions. I think of some goals sometimes, or go more general with “things I will work toward accomplishing”, but I refuse to put pressure on myself or set myself up for failure.

    I prefer to set myself up for success.

    Living in the moment is a grand approach. I think we’re sometimes so focused on the end game that we completely miss out on enjoying today. I’m not against having great things to anticipate (37 days to Hawaii!), but I also want to fully appreciate the joy of today. I believe in living life one day at a time. We can do a lot by doing it one day at a time.

    Happy New Year, Jenny and Argh people!

  20. Along with the wish for peace on a grand, worldwide scale, I hope that 2013 brings everyone personal peace on a deep level and happiness.

  21. Happy New Year! And really, I don’t think life gets much better than being curled up under a quilt with our dogs beside us. Every day I’m glad that I was born a dog person. Even if Cooper is a bed hog and I let him be.

  22. Happy New Year Argh People!

    I like the idea of a plan for the new year. Mine is “Feed the good wolf”, from the legend that we all have two wolves fighting inside us and the one that wins is the one we feed. I think I might need to get that tattooed on the palm of my hand but with a little luck and some careful remembering it might become a habit.

  23. Ahh, under a warm quilt, snuggling with doggies. I’ll be at that place myself soon when the champagne bottle uptips for a final pour.

    Ms. Crusie, you took 2012 hard, with reason. I hope 2013 with its Moment Watch is a big soft poofy cushion for you and yours. Some part of “yours” being we Arghers, of course.

    Happy New Year to us all! And to all a good night. (moment by moment)

  24. Happy New Year Jenny. May this year be better than last to you and many arghers. It is 10:15 pm here in St. Paul & the temperature is 2 degrees F. So it’s a cold start to the year. I want to join your bandwagon & live for the present. Enjoy your snuggle buddies. :-)

  25. That makes a lot of sense. It’s what my meditation teacher tried to teach me to do… live in the moment. Alas, my brain is a lightning cluster of worries that take me out of the moment. And lecturing it hasn’t worked a bit… I wish you much better luck!!!

  26. It’s the morning after the night before. And it was pretty damn epic.

    I get the concept of “Nothing but good times NOW” because I have experiences to compare. For 2011 New Year’s Eve, I made plans to go to the big open-air party with two of my old friends and my cousin. This was big, because I’d never been out with these guys before even though they’re important to me (due to studies, family commitments and sundry annoyances). The whole group of my friends (guys and girls) used to party together but I didn’t. I used to listen to the stories after and wish fervently to be there. 2011 NYE was a chance to recapture some of what I missed out on.

    Suffice to say, because I was hoping for something to be like the past, I didn’t see how good it was in the present.

    For 2012 NYE, I let that all go and just decided to be. I drove my cousin and one of her best girlfriends and the three of us just hung out. And the best thing happened. I had LOADS of fun, danced a lot and ended up running into a dear (newer) friends. I met her friends, and we all had a great time together for a while.

    It’s not about what was. It’s all about what I can make of what is.

  27. I like the idea of resolutions because I pay the word extra to mean what I want it to mean. In my case, it’s a fuzzy slogan hanging around in the back of my mind, reminding me of what I want to do. I’ve found that it doesn’t work with dieting or losing weight — it sometimes works with positive goals like “move more often” or “learn something new.” It really helps if the resolution is actually something fun and useful for work.

    But what a lovely way to ring in the new year — snuggled in bed with a few pets! (-: My toffee reached the right temperature at exactly midnight, so I started the new year by pouring it over almonds. I hope it portends a sweet year (-:.

    Tonight is the night of the first dream, which is supposed to be an omen for the coming year. (-: The luckiest things to dream of are Mt. Fuji, hawks or eggplant. LOL, so here’s hoping everyone dreams of a hawk carrying a giant eggplant over Mt. Fuji! It’ll be my first “first night” with the CPAP, so I might actually remember some dreams for the first time in years.

    Wishing you and all the community a happy 2013!

  28. I have the memory span of a protozoa (4 minutes, I looked it up) so I need a Plan and Goals and a To-Do list. And I could have written a book on procrastination but I haven’t gotten around to it yet. My daily routines keep my world functioning so coffee gets made in the morning and the trash gets put out on Sundays. I can remember to do that stuff. But I need to write Stuff down or it doesn’t get done or I’ll remember that I was suppose to do something but it was months ago. If I don’t have a piece of paper with Stuff to do, my life stalls and nothing gets improved, cleaned, decluttered or just done. Some people are steak knives; others are butter knives.

    Also, menopause.

    Happy 2013 everyone. I hope each of us has an amazing new year. :)

  29. I’ve started new years with explicitly articulated plans and resolutions and years without, and, now that I am thinking about this, I believe I operate, day to day, guided by elements of a plan, generated unconsciously from whatever is authenic about me and consciously from the elements of art and style I seem to have selected over the years. Now that I think about this, I think a plan is like scaffolding around the building that is one’s life. So a plan is necessary (you wouldn’t want to build something “commando” style), but I think we really know at some level what our plan is and we don’t have to go about expressing it once a year. Yet the activity of building means having to deal with uncertainty and change, so as the scaffold must be able to accomodate changing reality, so too does a plan. But it doesn’t hurt, at least once a year, to evaluate the plan because elements of will require modification to accomodate life. A plan is probably a good thing to have, but without periodically checking how it’s/we’re doing and revising it, it won’t do its job as a plan. So here’s to life’s elements remaining within their statistical norms in 2013.

    1. This reminds me of my mom’s explanation when we were little kids about why we should pray.

      My little sister argued that if the gods already knew everything, why did we need to tell them what we wanted? Surely they knew, better than we, what would be right for us? (I think she was making less of a bid for becoming a heretic, more for being able to watch cartoons all Saturday morning.)

      Mom said that prayers of that kind weren’t for the gods’ knowledge, but for ours. Yes, the gods already knew that we wanted our aunt to get better from her latest recurrence of cancer, and also to do well on our exams. But prayers required us to articulate what was important to us and to remind us to do our part (whatever the Hindu equivalent of “God helps those who help themselves” is), not just hazily leave the universe up to the gods like we had no responsibility even to figure out what we wanted from them.

      My little sister and I are pretty literal- and analytically-minded, so this explanation appealed to us. I don’t think we challenged the basic concept of Saturday morning prayers again until I was a teenager and tried claiming that I didn’t believe in God anymore.

  30. Unless you’re expecting visitors, I see no problem with bras next to the computer. At the point you realize that you’re not going back out again that day, why not take your bra off right there? We have the common metaphor of “letting your hair down,” but I think “taking your bra off” is *much* more important to the feeling of relieved I-am-no-longer-worrying-about-my-appearance-and-am-just-gonna-be-comfortable. (At least, it’s much more important for those requiring underwire torture devices.)

    Happy 2013, may we all spend much of it with our bras off :-)

      1. Before the In-Laws came, my husband cleaned off the loveseat that I usually sit on when we watch tv (he has bad knees and needs to stretch his legs out so we have seperate seats) and found two bras, a pair of socks, a couple magazines and a dog brush slid down behind the cushions. I’d been looking for those bras. The greatest comfort of my 13 continuous days off work – besides daily naps – was not having to put on an underwire bra.

  31. This year I’m focusing on how I want to feel rather than what I want to get done. That way my feeling loved, safe, brilliant, fabulous, and neato becomes my personal north star and guides the goals and actions that I take and whatnot. My intention being to stop beating myself up, period. Because there’s always something that doesn’t get done, and that thing ends up overshadowing all the good that happens whether I’ve striven for it or not. Like you, I’m tired 😉 So here’s to you and all that brings you joy, and here’s to me and all that brings me joy, and may 2013 be amazing for all of us!

  32. Happy New Year. May 2013 be full of shiny and wonderful!!
    My plan for this year is to finish things. Anything really. I just want to tally something in the win column.

  33. I have to have at least an outline or a plan or I would just find a corner and never move. However, you’re “How’re we doing right now?” is a good reminder to live in the day and not miss the good stuff. And like Office Wench Cherry, I hope to ‘Feed the good Wolf’.

    Happy New Year to one and all!

  34. My resolution is to switch my default assumption from “this thing that I have to start won’t work out” to “this thing that I’m going to start will work out.” Of course, not everything will work out, but assuming that it won’t is exhausting, and it’s not an assumption I used to have. In other words, I want hope. Hope is emotional caffeine when there’s a long road of tasks in front of me.

  35. Well, can you believe it. I entered ‘argh’ onto my Words With Friends board, and it was rejected! It would have made good points, too.

    My resolution is to learn more words that use both “J” and “Z.”

    OK, and go back to the gym.

    1. MB, that’s totally bogus for you because I used “argh” on New Year’s Eve on WWF and it took it! That game so ticks me off sometimes because my compatriots play words I know for a fact are proper nouns and it accepts them and then when I try one, it rejects me. J & Z are always point worthy, so yes, a good resolution. Oh, and the gym is also a good idea!

        1. Ha! My baby sister played “jeez” just like that, in a game with me last year, too! It was worth something like 125 points (set alongside another word for even more points). Considering she usually beats me by that much anyway, it was really overkill.

  36. Oh yeah — quilts and kittens made for a cozy wake up. Cold has lingered here in Central Texas, an unusual event, temps stayed in the 30s till nearly noon. When I opened the house, there were four grown doe-deer still bedded down out back at 10:30. I grabbed my video and shot them through the back window [hmmm? may not turn out well]. But their tawny bodies, lying in the tall grass, blended into the dead trees and limestone outcropping with only dark noses and eyes visible. They watched from a safe distance as I attempted the capture them on film. Its rather unusual for those critters to still be abed in mid-morning. That’s how cold it is here! The cats went out front. But Tootsie, the 9-pound yearling kitten, came around back and got in the yard chair at the window near my kitchen table, she meowed at me to let her back inside. Maddie Bell, a fat 12-pound beast with thick hair to keep her warm, ran to the back door like something was after her as soon as I opened it. Nell, a 10-pound skinny girl had gone out front and across the street to a neighbor’s house where she always gets food scraps on the back deck. That skinny cat stays over there most of every day. But, on account of the cold, I opened the front door and called to her. And did she come running home as fast as her kitty legs would move! Now, its past noon, the deer have moved off, I’m back at work wrapped up in a thick robe, and the three cats are snuggled back into blankets and quilts on beds and sofas.
    Good to be warm and inside — I might even think up a resolution or two.
    Happy New Year y’all!

  37. Okay, so I crumbled. My gap year lasted two whole days. I got so nervous having no goals that today I wrote out a plan. I know. What a control freak, eh? Now I feel like the real me. : )

  38. The best resolution I ever made (years ago, when my kid was in grade school) was to not take on any new volunteer jobs until I had finished the ones I already had. I must have been asked 10x that year if I could help with this or that volunteer thing. I simply told the asker of my resolution and No One argued. They didn’t ask what else I was doing; they didn’t say, “but it’s October already!” It was the best resolution I ever made — and was able to keep!

    Here’s wishing everyone a better year than the last.

  39. Thank goodness I’m not the only one…anytime I try to make real, concrete plans, life always comes and laughs at me while it bites me in the ass. So, I either make a small goal for next week or I try not to plan at all :) However, I made one goal back in early November that I would quit smoking on December 28 and I would take a happy Xanax pill to fight off the cravings. Well, my “life” thought it would be helpful, so I now have bronchitis and an ear infection and could care less about smoking or cravings or happy medicine…I just want to breathe!!!

  40. I had one of those years in 2010. It was one of the worst years in my life. Horrible breakup and betrayal, lost my job, one thing after another. On Jan 2nd I had all my friends over to my tiny little condo for a “Good Mojo Party,” the goal being to fill my home and life with as much goodness as I could. And it worked like magic. Met a guy, got a job, and was married by the end of the year and getting ready to move to Europe. Possibly the best year of my life.

    Sending Good Mojo vibes your way!

  41. I just want to thank water cherry for posting the link to the Lizzie Bennet V-log. I have been having so much fun following it (and Lydia’s too). I can’t wait for the next installment. :)

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